Why does sex hurt? Working with people who have painful sex.
Sex Therapy Perth
What's wrong with me?
I won’t lie, when I hear these stories I want to cry and sometimes I tear up.
Whether we call it Pain During Sex, Female Sexual Pain, Painful Sex, Pelvic Pain, Vulvodynia, Dysparenia, Vaginismus, the summary is that It Hurts.
Clients come in and tell me that it feels like:
Their skin is tearing
Their skin is burning
It hurts just on the outside
It hurts mainly on the inside
It hurts sometimes
It always hurts
It hurts after sex
They can have sex but it hurts
They can get it in, but it hurts so much that they won’t allow anything near it.
It feels like there is a brick wall at the entrance of their vagina and nothing can get in
WHY DON'T WE TALK ABOUT IT?
It pains me that we don’t talk about this. That people in health related fields can still have no training and no knowledge of Female Sexual Pain Disorders.
If you are one of the thousands of women who have been told by their GP, Gynaecologist or health practitioner that
They can’t see anything
Everything looks normal
It’s all your head
They don’t know what its is.
I understand the pain and heartache that these experiences and setbacks can cause you.
You and I both know how unacceptable this is. It is scary to think that people don’t know about female sexual health.
Sadly this is a familiar story. It happens here in Australia and around the world.
I KNOW THAT THIS AFFECTS YOUR:
Your relationship with your body
Fear of entering into a relationship
Fear that your partner will leave you
Fear of the pain you are about to experience
You find yourself avoiding intimacy
You can get very depressed
Feel the shame of an unconsummated marriage or relationship
Anxiety and Sadness when you think about fertility issues
Discourage that you can’t find the help you need
Discouraged and Angry that people don’t know what you are talking about
HOW I CAN HELP YOU - WORK WITH ME
You will no longer feel like you are working on this alone.
I will not tell you that you are mad or crazy or that this is all in your head.
We will work together to help you heal your past.
I will be there to support you as we work together to help you through the physical and emotional healing processes.
I understand how hard it is to talk to someone about this, how hard it is to disclose some of this stuff because it is so personal.
I promise that I will not judge you.
This will be a safe space for you to bitch, vent and heal.
If you have been unsuccessful in the past but you want to give fixing this another go,
If you have never spoken to someone about any of this before but want to.
If you are ready to start the healing process to success, please Contact Me if you have any questions or you would like to organise your first session.
I’m looking forward to meeting you,