Grief and Loss Counselling
Grief and Loss
Grieving is a natural and necessary process that people experience following a loss. Some people, however, lack the support needed to help them work through the pain of mourning and this is when problems can arise.
Grief and Loss
Loss can take the form of having somebody close to us die or losses such as the breakdown of a relationship, loss of a job, loss of health, loss of a pet or loss of something else that has great value to us.
When we lose something that we treasure, we often experience a range of emotions including confusion, anger, sadness and shock.
Unfortunately, there is no easy way to deal with loss; rather it is a process, which takes time.
Dealing with grief arising from loss is an individual experience, as no two people experience it in the same way. The impact of bereavement or any significant loss is complex and affects us on many levels including our emotions, how we see things, behaviour, physical health and our relationships with others.
Support at this time is vital. Many have support from family and friends, while others do not and have to go it alone.
Unfortunately, there are many myths that exist regarding grief and mourning. These myths can hamper the grieving process and in some cases prevent the mourner from moving forward in their lives.
Some of these myths are:
Mourning can be resolved simply by crying. Actually crying is a release, while mourning is an active process involving work to move forward with your life.
Fathers grieve less intensely than mothers do when a child dies. Actually, fathers and mothers grieve differently, rather than less intensely and not understanding this has lead to much tension in relationships.
Mourning progresses through predictable stages. Actually, the mourning experience is unique for each individual. While there are generalised stages to grief, these are by no means a step 1, 2, 3 guide.
Most individuals resolve their grief in a year’s time. Actually, the second year can sometimes be more painful than the first year, but the mourner suppresses their grief in order to meet societies expectations.
Some feelings are right and some are wrong in the grieving process. Actually, feelings are not right or wrong, they just are. Suppressing feelings in order to meet others expectations can inhibit the mourning process and affect a mourner’s forward progress.
One of the most common statements made by people going through the grieving process is “Nobody Understands”. Here lies the benefit of grief counselling with a qualified, experienced counsellor.
“I Understand” and I can help you through the grieving process.
Find out how I can support you in a 15 minute obligation free phone call. Call me on 07 34581725.